shocked at bill

Why adults can’t properly ‘adult’

I had to ‘adult’ today and it was really bloody difficult.

It was related to paying for some professional services. I had decided to use a service provider – let’s call them Jo Blog’s Services – who I knew about through my work.

I’ve actually referred them business myself on plenty of occasions because they are the best of the best. When I signed up to use them, they assured me of mates rates without being specific about what kind of discount I would get. However, when I got the estimate of costs this morning, it was far from ‘mates rates’.

In fact, it was much higher than mates rates. Where the standard industry cost is around $500, and I was hoping for a discount to $400, my fee was listed at almost $1000.


It was a dilemma… Do I say something? How do I say something? Do I risk professional awkwardness by overtly asking for a discount, or just let it be then pay the bill, before never using their services again?!

These were the thoughts racing through my mind.

And to be honest, I deeply pondered the merits of my final suggestion.

Do nothing, feel crappy, pay the bill feeling resentful, and beat myself up afterwards for saying nothing. The outcome would have sucked, but that course of action would have been the least difficult course of action.

I didn’t do that – because I thought of my kids.

You see, I recently read a fascinating article that suggested millennials are so lacking in resilience and grit because they have “been robbed of the confidence to solve problems by themselves”.

A generation of helicopter parents has resulted in a mass of entitled, over-protected, non-confrontational adults who have real trouble adulating.

“If this were your child in this situation,” I thought, “what advice would you give them?”

I’d tell them to suck it up and have a difficult conversation. I’d tell them to approach it politely and pleasantly, but with a firmness that suggests you’d like a different outcome.

And I’d tell them to do it sooner rather than later, so they don’t chicken out.

That’s exactly what I did. I called Jo Blog’s Services, and my contact confirmed that the price on my estimate would be discounted by 35%.

It’s not quite the ‘deal of the century’ I was looking for, but at least I put on my big girl pants and asked the question. That’s a win in and of itself, right?!

Gold Coast Police

Man charged over violent stabbing at Palm Beach

A MAN has been charged over the alleged repeated stabbing of another man at Palm Beach last month.

Around 7.45pm on May 25, a group of men became involved in a fight at a licensed premises on Fifth Avenue with the disturbance spilling out onto the street.

Police said that during the incident, a 26-year-old man was allegedly stabbed a number of times with an unknown weapon.

He later presented to the Tweed Heads Hospital for treatment to his injuries.

Following investigations, officers have charged a 29-year-old Worongary man with acts intended to disable and assault occasioning bodily harm.

Police investigations are ongoing.

Man charged after high-speed car chase through Gold Coast streets

A MAN has finally been arrested after leading police on a wild, high-speed car chase through the streets of the Gold Coast overnight.

Just before 8pm, a Queensland Police helicopter spotted a stolen gold 2001 Ford Laser speeding through a stationary speed camera site near Oxenford.

“PolAir tracked the car north on the Pacific Motorway and then as it exited onto Entertainment Drive,” police said in a statement.

“The vehicle was tracked through suburbs including Oxenford, Pacific Pines, Nerang, Broadbeach, Bundall and Southport where it was observed driving dangerously, at high speeds in excess of 100 kilometres per hour and also through a number of red lights.”

Police deployed stingers at Hooker Boulevard in an attempt to stop the car, however it was only partially successful and the car continued driving on all four rims before being stung again and finally coming to a stop on Brisbane Road in Arundel.

The driver, a 33-year-old man from Nerang, ran from the car but was tracked down by Police Dog Bravo and his handler.

The man was taken to Gold Coast University Hospital with a dog bite to the groin before being released into police custody.

He has since been charged with dangerous drive, unlawful use of a motor vehicle and unlicensed or disqualified driving. He is due to face Southport Magistrates Court today.

Whilst searching for the man, police said a senior constable broke his collarbone after falling down a two metre rock embankment.

He was taken to the Gold Coast Private Hospital for treatment and is now in a stable condition.

State of Origin QLD Maroons Jersey

Darius Boyd makes shock retirement from representative football

Brisbane Broncos captain Darius Boyd has quit representative football.

The star fullback made the announcement overnight, joining retired fellow Queenslanders Johnathan Thurston, Cooper Cronk, Cameron Smith and Billy Slater.

The 30-year-old’s decision means he will not be available for a recall in State of Origin Game two after missing out on the series opener at the MCG.

Boyd has played 28 games for the Maroons, becoming one of Queenslands highest try scorers behind Greg Inglis.

Police Lights

Part of man’s thumb bitten off during bar brawl in Brisbane

Police are seeking witnesses to a Fortitude Valley bar fight where a man had part of his thumb bitten off.

At around 12.15am on April 14, a 48-year-old man became involved in a physical altercation with a 53-year-old man at Cru Bar on James Street.

It was during this altercation that the 48-year-old had part of his thumb bitten off.

Police would like to speak with two people who are shown on security vision to have been sitting nearby that may have witnessed the circumstances leading up to incident.

It is hoped that the man and woman may have information that can help police firm up a timeline of events.

The pair, along with anyone else who may have witnessed the altercation and events leading up to it, are urged to contact police.

Both men involved in the incident are continuing to assist police with their enquiries.

If you have information for Police, please contact Policelink on 131 444 or provide information using their online form 24 hours per day.

You can also report information about crime anonymously to Crime Stoppers by calling 1800 333 000 or via 24 hours per day. Crime Stoppers is a registered charity and community volunteer organisation.