Are parents who holiday kid-free selfish?

An article has been doing the rounds on social media again, and it’s whipping parents up into a frenzy about whether it’s “right” or “wrong” to go on holidays without your children.

Though the article was first published on Kidspot earlier this year, it’s started circulating again in the lead up to the September school holidays.

It’s all about a family who were planning a holiday, and their kids’ grandparents offered to have their 2-year-old for the week while they take their two older children on vacation.


They’re planning to hit up a waterpark, theme parks and the beach – all places that a 2-year-old would enjoy. But let’s be honest… it’s not so much fun for the parents to take their toddler to these types of places!

Ask any parent who has travelled with an ankle-biter and they’ll tell you: going on holidays with a toddler is not a holiday. It’s simply a transfer of goods from one location to another.

You schlep an endless supply of nappies, wipes, clothes, toys, snacks and other essentials to a new location, and you endure the journey – whether it be via plane, train or automobile – to get there.

Yet when these parents dared to suggest that they might enjoy going on a holiday without their youngest child, the internet was aghast. Aghast, I tell you!

Comments on the original post (which has gone super-viral) included, “Couldn’t do this, sorry. Baby will miss you so much!”, and, “You’re a family. You made a choice to have a baby who is now two. I’d hate to have a family holiday leaving out a member of the family. Sorry, I do think it’s quite selfish.”

Putting aside the fact that we’re all so ridiculously judgemental these days, I wanted to point out the glaring hypocrisy of this.

It frustrates me that as women, we constantly say things like: We’re all about supporting one another! Let’s lift each other up!

And my favourite: Gosh mums do it tough! They really deserve a break… Then when the opportunity to support and lift and encourage a break comes up, parents are quick to judge and tear down instead.

Plus, how come dad isn’t “selfish” in these debates? Why is it always all on the mum?

It really grinds my gears. But what do you think – are parents who take kid-free holidays (whether it’s leaving all kids at home, or just one child) selfish? Or are they living the dream?!