How does the saying go? Opinions are like…

We’ve always been an opinionated bunch. Humans, that is; we all have opinions. Big ones. In the last decade, however, we’ve all become much more comfortable sharing our opinions – especially when it comes to kids.

Breastfeeding, bottle feeding, when to wean, sleep routines, bedtimes, when to stop using a dummy, when to start school, how to manage tantrums, when to stop co-sleeping, managing screen time…

Whatever the topic, when it comes to kids and the raising thereof, we’ve all got an opinion, and we’re not afraid to share it.


It’s creating all sorts of angst and anxiety amongst parents and I reckon it’s high time we gave it a rest. I know it’s ironic that I’m sharing my opinion that we all have too many opinions via this here opinion blog – that moment has not been lost on me!

But here’s the thing. I don’t really care what others do in the privacy of their own home. Actually, let me rephrase that: I do care a lot about child abuse and neglect and ill treatment of animals and domestic violence and everything of that nature.

However, if you decide to breastfeed until your child is out of nappies…

Or you still co-sleep with your five-year-old…

Or your kid doesn’t go to bed until 10pm…

Whatever it is? It’s none of my business. As long as said child is fed and loved and the parents are doing their best, does it really matter how we each handle these little idiosyncrasies of parenting? They may not be the choices I’d make, but in your house, it’s your circus.

A friend of mine was at the supermarket recently and her toddler was screaming for treats at the counter. She was trying to calm him down without giving in to his demands when a woman in her 50s stopped, leaned down to her little boy, and said, “You’re being a very naughty boy.” My friend was so shocked and upset, she didn’t respond – instead she turned beet red, raced through her transaction and fled to her car, where she burst into tears.

I don’t know what the woman thought she was going to achieve? How was scolding a toddler going to be helpful in any way, shape or form? It would have done so much more good to turn to the mum and say, “We’ve all been there. It’s hard some days, isn’t it? You’re doing a great job.”

But if she couldn’t muster up a word of encouragement, then it’s better to say nothing at all.

Just like the saying goes: Opinions are like…

Farts. Just because you have one, doesn’t mean you need to let it out!

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