Are you coupled up? Then lean in close: I’m about to drop a truth bomb.
There is one thing impacting your relationship right now and it has the power to drive a massive wedge between you and your other half.
How do I know this for a fact? Because we’re all guilty of it. Every single one of us.
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It’s called Pphubbing, you guys, and it’s a Big Freaking Deal.
Pphubbing (a snazzy little combination of the words ‘phone’ and ‘snubbing’, with an extra P thrown in for good measure to represent your partner) is when you check out of any meaningful conversation to instead remain glued to the device in your hands.
Researchers from actual universities have invested much time and energy into studies on this, and they’ve discovered that when you ignore your partner in favour of your phone, your partner doesn’t like it.
Professor James Roberts confirmed that it contributes to “lower levels of relationship satisfaction”, which then morphs into crappy levels of life satisfaction and “ultimately, higher levels of depression”.
“When you think about the results, they are astounding,” Prof. Roberts adds.
“Something as common as cellphone use can undermine the bedrock of our happiness – our relationships with our romantic partners.”
Pphubbing is an increasingly common experience for all ages, and it’s not just limited to romantic relationships.
I can remember when it was considered rude to answer a phone call on your mobile when you were at a social gathering. These days, people will happily chat away on their phones for 15 minutes or longer while out to lunch with a friend – or worse, scroll social media during lulls in the conversation. Ouch.
Just this week, I was at a restaurant for brunch when a family collapsed into a table beside us. Mum, dad, toddler and grandfather settled into their seats. The toddler was handed an iPad, then the three remaining adults sat scrolling on their phones. For, like, a whole hour.
Why bother going out? Why not just make eggs at home, if you’re just going to stare at your phone the whole time?
It’s time we all put our phones down a little more, methinks. At least until our brains and our phones become one and the same thing.