The curse of being ‘too pretty’

Well, this is a little awkward.

Felicia Czochanski, a 20-year-old student at Fordham University in New York City, has written an article for Cosmopolitan that discusses that fact that she doesn’t feel she gets “taken seriously”.

Why? Because people can’t see past her sparkling looks.


In the article, titled People judge me because I’m pretty, Felicia reveals that because of her looks, others often disregard her true qualities and accomplishments.

Felicia said the attention she was receiving made her feel so uncomfortable that she felt the need to dress down and minimise her gorgeousness.

“Imagine how it feels to have heads turn and all eyes on you when you are simply trying to get to where you need to be,” she writes.

“It doesn’t make me feel beautiful or sexy. It makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me. The scrutiny is never-ending.”

Yes, imagine. It sounds positively awful.

Unsurprisingly, most of the comments on the original article – and the article that followed – were negative. It’s hard to conjure sympathy for someone whose biggest problem is their flawless skin and shiny hair.

Comments ranged from the benign (“This is really pathetic. Woe to me because I was born pretty! Such a heavy curse that I have to bear!”) to the nasty (“I sincerely hope you have more going for you than your looks – because your looks are not so special.”)

It’s interesting that, when someone says that they want to be appreciated for more than looks, our first reaction as a community is to tell them that they’re not actually attractive.

While there was the occasional remark from someone supportive, saying, “I like your confidence,” they were few and far between.

Felicia insists that she wants people to get to know her for her, instead of gazing hopelessly into her big, hazel eyes. I’m not sure penning a tell-all about her tough, aesthetically blessed life was the way to go about it…

As one commenter wrote, “Good for her to have self-confidence… She’s smack in the middle of what should be her prime age or best-looking portion of her life. Maybe dress down the super-egocentric and fake sounding victim part of ‘I’m so beautiful; woe is me’ and just enjoy it.”

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