It’s time we all shut up about breastfeeding

I’m sick of talking about it.

I’m sick of hearing about it.

I’m sick of seeing photos of mothers breastfeeding on social media, alongside odd-sounding hashtags like #normalisebreastfeeding.


And I’m definitely sick of the unwanted opinions being shared by people anywhere and everywhere, discussing just how they feel about breastfeeding, or just how modest a woman should be when putting her baby on the boozie.

It’s honestly time we all shut up about breastfeeding, and just let mothers get on with the business of feeding their kids.

I mean, really – why do so many people have an opinion on this?!

I have three children. My youngest is 11 weeks old and he’s breastfed. I feed him in public all the time, because I have to.

I have two other children who need to go to school and kindy and attend other activities; I have groceries to purchase; I have errands to run. Unless I’m a shut-in for the first six months of my baby’s life, there are going to be times when we’re out in public and he needs to eat.

So, I feed him. In public. Often. And I usually don’t even make the slightest attempt to locate a toilet or somewhere else ‘private’ to give him his milk.

Why? Because I have two other kids with me – schlepping them around to find a quiet spot or squeezing us all into a toilet cubicle just isn’t realistic. I’m discreet to the point that most people don’t even realise he’s on the boob, as I usually cover up with a muslin wrap, although sometimes I forget it. On those occasions he still needs to be fed, and so, shock horror, I feed him.

I understand that some people might feel uncomfortable if they happen to catch a glimpse of my naked breast for that split second before and after my baby fills his tummy, and if they do, I apologise for that. But you feeling uncomfortable for a second or two isn’t going to stop me from feeding my kid. Baby needs milk. Mum provides milk. End of story. It’s really as simple as that.

As far as community issues go, it’s actually kind of boring. However, when mums fear being judged for breastfeeding in public, it just gives them a dose of unwanted anxiety at a time when they really don’t need any more on their plate.

So I was wondering, as a community, if we could just agree to get over this whole obsession we have with expressing our reaction to breastfeeding?

As Elsa would say: It’s time to Let It Go.

The Meddler

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