A few weeks ago, my friend had a big argument with another parent at school.
The details aren’t important – it was a dust-up about a school fundraiser, a ‘too many cooks in the kitchen’ situation – but the end result was my friend in tears.
Over the weekend, I asked how she was feeling about it all now.
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“I’m actually embarrassed,” she confessed, sheepishly.
“At the time I felt like it was the most important thing in the world and her reaction made me question myself and my intentions. Now I have perspective, I realise how silly it all was – I can’t believe I lost sleep and cried for two days about something so unimportant.”
Perspective is such a powerful thing. In the moment, an argument, situation or even an off-hand comment from someone can make or break your mood.
I was reminded of this when following the scandal that has erupted in the last week, with Mother of Daughters blogger and instagrammer Clemmie Hooper.
Hooper has admitted she’s been leading a secret double life as an online troll using an account called Aliceinwanderlust, where she took pot-shots at other bloggers.
She even reportedly attacked her own husband Simon Hooper (whose Father of Daughters account has more than 1 million followers) – perhaps as a way to through people off the scent?
Hooper failed to write anything disparaging about herself, which ultimately led to her unveiling.
The craziest thing about this story is that she had gallons of followers – 99% of whom adored her.
Instead of focusing on that, she allowed her mind to zero in on the negative nellies and the naysayers.
And she festered. She let them become her kryptonite. She invested her energy into trying to change the opinions and minds of a couple hundred gossipers, rather than being grateful and accepting of the literally hundreds of thousands of people who encouraged and supported her.
It would be tough to have a public presence on social media, no doubt, but when you put yourself out there, people are allowed to have an opinion of you. If that opinion of you happens to be negative, then you need to ignore it.
I know that’s easier said than done, but the truth is this: what other people think of you is none of your business.
The sooner we all embrace this truth, the more enjoyable our lives will be!